Episode 67: Eating Disorders with Heather Kilgore

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The Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz

https://www.amazon.com/Four-Agreements-Practical-Personal-Freedom/dp/1878424319/ref=asc_df_1878424319/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=312009360408&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=10949243868611409540&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9021065&hvtargid=pla-404289635950&psc=1&tag=&ref=&adgrpid=60223809297&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvadid=312009360408&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=10949243868611409540&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9021065&hvtargid=pla-404289635950

1 – Be impeccable with your word.

Words are more powerful than we realise, they are the building blocks of labels, concepts and beliefs.

To avoid creating new, harmful illusions, be extremely conservative when using them on yourself or on others.

Get in the habit of saying only what you mean and meaning only what you say. When in doubt, say nothing at all.

2 – Don’t take anything personally

Remember that the words and actions of others are the products of their own illusory realities.

Acknowledge that if you shared the same reality you would know no better than to act and speak in exactly the same way.

Armed with this knowledge: take nothing personally. It will defuse the power of the words and actions of others to impact you.

3 – Don’t make assumptions

Though we know most assumptions are baseless, we often still give them the weight of full agreements.

The result? The violation of one-sided expectations is a major source of misunderstanding and suffering at all levels of life.

Be aware and wary of your natural tendency to assume things about yourself, others and the world around you. 

Instead, look and listen without labels or judgement. Have the courage to ask questions and clarify.

And remember, when someone or something surprises you – the failing isn’t theirs, it is yours.

4 – Always do your best

Always do the very best you can. Live with maximum possible areté in each moment.

But don’t worry about whether your best now is the same or better than your best yesterday, or even five minutes ago. 

Where to get Help with an Eating Disorder On-Line

 

National Eating Disorder Association (NEDA)

https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/help-support

 

National Association of Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders

http://www.anad.org/get-help/find-support-groups-treatment/

 

Project Heal

https://www.theprojectheal.org/

 

Eating Disorder Hope

https://www.eatingdisorderhope.com/information/help-overcome-eating-disorders

 

National Eating Disorder Collaboration

http://www.nedc.com.au/helplines

 

Healthy Place.com

https://www.healthyplace.com/eating-disorders/

 

Center for Discovery – Treatment Center and helpful articles on Eating Disorders Self-Help

https://centerfordiscovery.com/

 

The Renfrew Center for Eating Disorders

http://renfrewcenter.com/

 

Multi Service Eating Disorder Association

Medainc.org

 

Helpful Articles

6 Things You Can do If you Think You Have an Eating Disorder

https://everydayfeminism.com/2013/09/if-you-think-you-have-an-ed/

 

Eating Disorder Recovery and Self-Help Tips

https://www.eatingdisorderhope.com/recovery/self-help-tools-skills-tips

 

How do I tell my parents I have an Eating Disorder?

https://www.eatingdisorderhope.com/recovery/self-help-tools-skills-tips/telling-parents-mom-dad-about-eating-disorder

 

Stepping Back Into reality:  The progression of treatment for Eating Disorder Recovery

https://www.eatingdisorderhope.com/recovery/self-help-tools-skills-tips/eating-disorder-recovery-occurs-with-many-small-successes